Links and Resources
This is a list of links to various media that have helped me to understand what happened to me and to so many others. The truly sad part about this is that what happened is so common. There will always be moments of vulnerability, that is human, only knowledge can heal and protect.
You are not alone.
Articles, Essays, and Papers
- 8 Steps That Explain Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships, Crystal Sanchez, MsMagazine
- A Hamster Wheel of Self-Help, Matthew Remski in conversation w/Rachel Bernstein, Indoctrination
- A Public Health Approach to Trauma, Trauma and Public Health Task Force, International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies
- Abuse and the Code of Silence, C. J. Grace, Huffpost
- An evolutionary behaviorist perspective on orgasm, Diana S. Fleischman, PhD, National Library of Medicine
- Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Stages of Grooming, Dr. Michael Welner, Oprah.com
- Complex trauma: how abuse and neglect can have life-long effects, Stacy Morford, theConversation.com
- Continuum of Influence, Margaret Thaler Singer, Ph.D, Thought Reform Exists: Organized, Programmatic Influence
- Driven: The Four Drives Underlying Our Human Nature – Driven: How Human Nature Shapes Organizations, Paul Lawrence and Nitin Nohria, Harvard Business School
- FBI Is Probing One Taste, a Sexuality Wellness Company, Ellen Huet, Bloomberg News
- Flashbacks, TraumaRecovery.ca
- Here’s What Happens to Your Body And Brain When You Orgasm, Sophia Mitrokostas, ScienceAlert.com
- How Cults Work, CultWatch.com
- How to identify a cult: Six tips from an expert, Paul LaRosa, CBSnews.com
- How to Identify a Dangerous Cult, Stephen Johnson, LifeHacker.com
- Idiot Compassion and Mindfulness, Derek Beres, BigThink.com
- Independent investigation confirms “physical, sexual, emotional abuse” by Sogyal Rinpoche, Lilly Greenblatt, LionsRoar.com
- Lafayette Morehouse Philosophy, Wikipedia.com
- Leaving Neverland (2019) | Official Trailer
- Love Bombing, Wikipedia.com
- Magical Thinking, Britannica.com
- My Close Encounter With a Modern Day Cult, The Bun, TheVanBun.com
- My Run in With a California Cult, Anonymous, Martleblog.WordPress.com
- Professor: Pain of ostracism can be deep, long-lasting, Amy Patterson Neubert, Purdue.edu
- Shambhala Investigation: Leader Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche Likely Committed Sexual Misconduct, Matthew Abrahams, Tricycle.org
- Stages of Trafficking: How It Happens, WebWise.ca
- Suit: It’s hooking, not sex training, Peter Hartlaub, SFGate.com
- Take The ACE Quiz — And Learn What It Does And Doesn’t Mean, Laura Starecheski, NPR.org
- Talking About Sex interview and reviews of Gia Lynne’s book, On Blossoming, Anya Manes, TalkingAboutSex.com
- The 5 Most Powerful Sales Techniques, David Finkel, Inc.com
- The compulsion to repeat the trauma. Re-enactment, revictimization, and masochism, BA. van der Kolk, National Library of Medicine
- The Criminal Justice System: Sexual Abuse Statistics, RAINN.org
- The Dark Side of the Orgasmic Meditation Company, Ellen Huet, Bloomberg.com
- The Four Essential Points of Letting Go in the Bardo, Pema Khandro Rinpoche, LionsRoar.com
- THE TALE Official Trailer
- This week in Savage Love: The sins of the grandfather, Dan Savage, AVClub.com
- Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation, Daniel Shaw, Routledge
- What Are Dissociative Disorders?, Philip Wang, M.D., Dr.P.H, American Psychiatric Association
- What is human trafficking?, HeatWatch.org
- What Is Jealousy?, PsychologyToday.com
- Why We Are All Creatures of Habit, Mark Buchanan, NewScientist.com
- Why We Dream, PsychologyToday.com
- Your Narcissistic Parent, CPTSD, & Toxic Shame, Michael G. Quirke, MFT, OpenMindsFoundation.org
- Captive: A Mother’s Crusade to Save Her Daughter from the Terrifying Cult NXIVM, Catherine Oxenberg, Simon Schuster
- Combatting Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best-selling Guide to Protection, Rescue, and Recovery from Destructive Cults, Steven Hassan, Park Street Press
- Cults in Our Midst: The Continuing Fight Against Their Hidden Menace, Margaret Thaler Singer, John Wiley & Sons Cults today are bigger than ever, with broad ramifications for national and international terrorism. In this newly revised edition of her definitive work on cults, Singer reveals what cults really are and how they work, focusing specifically on the coercive persuasion techniques of charismatic leaders seeking money and power. The book contains fascinating updates on Heaven's Gate, Falun Gong, Aum Shinrikyo, Hare Krishna, the Reverend Sun Myung Moon, and the connection between cults and terrorism in Al Queda and the PLO.
- Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation, Janina Fisher, Routledge
- Healing the Shame that Binds You, John Bradshaw, Health Communications Inc
- Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult that Bound My Life, Sarah Edmondson w/Kristine Gasbarre, Chronicle Prism
- Survivor to Thriver Manual, Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk, Viking
- The Places That Scare You; A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times, Pema Chodron, Shambhala Publications
- Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence–From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, Judith Lewis Herman, Basic Books
- When Things Fall Apart; Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron, Shambhala Publications
Podcasts
Webpages
- Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse
- American Trauma Society
- Ark of Hope for Children
- Children of God; A former member examines the lingering effects of being raised in the Family, a cult whose disturbing practices include the sexual abuse of children.
- Cult Education Institute
- End the Backlog of Rape Kits
- Find a Therapist
- How Cults Work, CultWatch.com
- Indoctrination Podcast
- National Center for Victims of Crimes
- National Human Trafficking Hotline
- Planned Parenthood
- Take The ACE Quiz — And Learn What It Does And Doesn’t Mean, Laura Starecheski, NPR.org
- The Welcomed Consensus Webpage
- This week in Savage Love: The sins of the grandfather, Dan Savage, AVClub.com
- Truth and Reconciliation Commission, South African History Online
- Welcomed Consensus promotional video
- Your Narcissistic Parent, CPTSD, & Toxic Shame, Michael G. Quirke, MFT, OpenMindsFoundation.org
